【厦门韦博英语】80后剩女最怕听到的五句话

【厦门韦博英语】80后剩女最怕听到的五句话

【厦门韦博英语】80后剩女最怕听到的五句话

1) What’s Said: “Maybe you’re not trying hard enough.”
　　
　　What’s Heard: “This can come off sounding like you’re passing judgment on effort,” says Anderson. “It’s better to encourage a single person to explore new relationships to the extent they are comfortable and to extend themselves in ways that feel natural and not forced.”
　　
　　说者：也许你没好好争取。
　　
　　听者：你在贬低她的个人能力，你觉得她是个不上进的人。
　　
　　2) What’s Said: “Wear more makeup.”
　　
　　What’s Heard: More than implying that the search for Mr. Right is as easy as brushing a spot of color onto the cheeks, this comment offends further by actually attacking a person’s core identity.
　　
　　“A woman presents herself according to what she defines as meaningful. Whether her style is glamorous belle or au naturelle, every woman should be allowed to be herself. There’s a man out there who is going to be attracted to her style, whatever it is. If she’s presenting herself as anyone other than who she really is, that’s false advertising and that’s going to backfire.”
　　
　　说者：多化化妆
　　
　　听者：找男朋友像涂口红一样简单，同时你也质疑了对方的外表。

　　3) What’s Said: “Get back out there!”
　　
　　What’s Heard: This can send the signal that the single person is simply not doing enough speed or Internet or blind dating, or worse, that she isn’t living a full enough life.
　　
　　“Singles are not by definition hiding out in their closets curled up in the fetal position all day,” says Anderson. “Most are likely working, meeting friends out for dinner and events, working out.”
　　
　　说者：多出去接触人群
　　
　　听者：我单身因为我不喜欢和人打交道，我不喜欢上网，我没有相亲，总而言之，我是个失败的人。
　　
　　4) What’s Said: “You’re too picky”
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